I have finally finished my coaching diploma with Noble Manhattan Coaching! I feel a sense of pride, a sense of accomplishment, a sense of relief!
It is not often that I feel this sense of achievement to be honest. The last time I felt it was when I graduated from medical university. But I can re-feel it again, and it feels so fulfilling.
I am so pumped up right now that I have decided to review my goals for 2018. I know, most people tend to do this in December or January, especially when a new year is daunting upon us. It makes sense, true. And studies have shown that about one in ten will actually complete or at least maintain their New Year’s resolutions.
So today starting with this sense of new achievement, I want to help you guys achieve the same sense of achievement if that is what you are looking for. One way to feel this is by completing a goal or project that means something to you.
It is, hence, important, that whatever you set your mind to, is in complete congruency with your base: your VALUES. Each of us has values, some might know them my heart, others might have written them down. Yet, there are others- like me, 2 years ago- that do not really understand what values are all about and what they mean.
Put simply values are our thumbprint, who we are, our worth.
Knowing your values can truly be liberating. Life is on all levels easier once you acknowledge and prioritize yours values. All of a sudden, decisions are done faster and feel easier, life seems to be less complicated, more fulfilling and happy. Values help you pull instead of push energy, and help you act and flow more naturally. You see clearer and can filter through the meaning and importance of experiences more efficiently. Once you drill them down they act as a catalyst to improve your motivation and your mindset. Goal-setting, mission and vision are clearer, closer and more achievable than before.
“By allying our everyday actions, decisions and behaviour with our values, we feel a sense of effortlessness, ‘being in the flow’.”, NMC
Values→ Behaviour→ Goals→ Mission→ Vision
A value is usually an abstract, non-countable noun. Family, for example, is not a value because we can count who is in it. The tricky part is to find what lies behind the family that is important for you. It might be security, it might be love, it might be belonging. A values list might help give you some ideas. What is more significant, though, is to allow yourself to express your value in words and phrases that resonate best with you.
Once you have nailed down on your values, prioritising them is even more important. I have done a “Values elicitation exercise” and prioritisation both on my own, as well as with the help of a coach. Amazingly, what came out with the help of another person was more striking and closer to my heart.
It is also wise to re-evaluate your values occasionally. We grow, we experience new things, we learn. What was important two years ago may not be of such a significance now. I especially suggest this with clients that are chronically stressed or overwhelmed or are having a grand difficulty with making a decision.
A “Values elicitation exercise” with a Life Coach can help you achieve wonders.
All my clients have experienced the feeling of surprise, relief, excitement, or one of those magical “aha” moments, that encourage me to stay in the business of life coaching and help more people.
Here is a site that can help you set your own values using neuro-linguistic programming. Make sure you get down to about 10-13 values before starting the prioritization process.
Below, is my current list of values. I hope me sharing it, inspires you in one way or another.
Now it is your turn! I am curious to know about your values, what you think values mean, and if you know what your values are. Want help discovering them? Get a coach!
Appointment booked. I’m all set. Coach me!